The Gift of 30 Good Questions

What are you thankful for? We went around the table, one at a time, discussing each response. Everyone got their time, a joyful exchange. I was pleasantly surprised in the enthusiastic participation.

Good Questions

That was my Thanksgiving. More gatherings will come. I’m thinking about conversations that illuminate and engage.

I’ve gathered up 30 good questions. Shall I pick the question, or ask them which one they’d like to answer?

Why ask? You…
  • Care
  • Connect
  • Transform
  • Appreciate
  • Learn

Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers ~Voltaire


1) Who is a role model, one that inspires you?

2) Who is one of your favorite book characters?

3) Who’s an influential person in your life?

4) Who (or what) do you go to, when you need good counsel?


5) What life question do you most want to answer?

6) What did you discover about yourself this year?

7) What do you appreciate now, that you didn’t when you were younger?

8) What characteristics do you admire in another?

9) What wisdom would you give me about life from your experience?


10) Where do you go to feel most like yourself?

11) Where do you fly fish/workout/joust/play your ukulele?

12) Where did you go that was beautiful/inspiring/renewing?

13) Where is your happy place?


14) When do you know it’s time for a change/vacation/haircut?

15) When are you most awake/creative/certain?

16) When do you go to bed/go to sleep/wake up/get up?

17) When is the last time you tried something new?

How ya doin’? I always think, what kind of question is that?, and always reply, “A bit early to tell!” ~Christopher Hitchens


18) How has this year been different than you imagined?

19) How would you spend your version of a perfect day?

20) How did you know ____was the one?

21) How will you remember this year?

22) How do I show you, you are loved?

Is there

23) Is there anything you’ve never told me, but you want to tell me now?

24) Is there something you’ve always wanted to know, but have never asked?

Do you

25) Do you have a love in your life?

26) Do you have a story of something that surprised you in the last week, month, or year?

Tell me (Question as invitation)

27) Tell me a dream you had or have, sleeping or awake.

28) Tell me something I don’t know about you.

29) Tell me something that will open my eyes.

30) Tell me something that I wouldn’t believe, but it’s true.

He had a talent for asking exactly the right questions to lead me to my own answers. Just being near him made things clearer. ~K.D.Sarge

What a gift a question can be. I am curious what questions you’ll ask and what they’ll say when you do? And what about you? Which one would you most like to answer? What would you add to the list?

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